Day 84: The link between numbing and anxiety

This morning I heard something the blew me away – not because I didn’t know it but because I did, and I just hadn’t thought about it this way before. I was listening to Brene Brown talk through the lessons in “The Power of Vulnerability”  when she said : In my data, in my research,…

Day 82: Out out without Wine

I nearly bailed on going out last night. Actually, I did bail. I texted the babysitter and said I wasn’t feeling well. I haven’t been ‘out out’ for months! So many months, I can’t even remember the last time.  It might even be more than a year ago. My husband’s band was playing at a…

Day 78: Finding the right Starting Point

I like the interplay between things. Where most people see cause and effect, I see multiple causes and a fair amount of randomness. Instead of: I see: Admittedly, this way of thinking creates more mess but it also creates more possibilities. When I became depressed a couple of years ago and was reaching the point…

Day 77: Making self-development work for me

Too much self-development can make you feel worse. Have you ever done that thing where you read a guru book, feel inspired, try to make the changes they suggest and end up just having a new reason to judge yourself harshly? Me too. In fact, over the years, the more I learned the more that…

Day 76: Socialising is much more difficult

I thought I had nailed the whole alcohol-free, sugar-free thing. Well, maybe not the sugar-free thing. I am not enjoying that at all! Today proved me wrong. The way I feel right now, I’m wondering whether the only thing that’s making this easy is my lack of social life. We had a wonderful afternoon with…

Day 74: Vulnerability, Courage and Understanding

Their lack of understanding only grows in your silence. Brendon Burchard As I watch my daughter work so hard to navigate the world of friendships and acceptance, I fear for her confidence and self-esteem. She keeps bouncing back but each day there are knocks. I still remember some of the more brutal moments from school –…

Day 63: Sugar withdrawal feels awful!

Now I remember why I’ve never succeeded at quitting sugar. Withdrawal feels just like depression. In fact, according to healthline.com depression and anxiety are two possible symptoms of sugar withdrawal, along with changes in sleep patterns, cognitive issues and cravings. Yup. Check. Check. And check. My brain feels like it’s offline. I wake up exhausted and stay…

Day 58: How you do anything is how you do everything

Sometimes I think I’m making too big a deal of giving up wine and sugar. I mean, in the grand scheme of things, it really isn’t that important. But in terms of the patterns it creates in my thinking and my habits, it’s very important. I don’t think most of us stop to think about…

Day 56: How to break a bad habit

When I started this blog, I thought that by my experience I might be able to help someone else attempting to do the same thing. Although my motives weren’t entirely altruistic – the blog helped me stick to my goal at the beginning, when the mountain still seemed too huge to climb on my own….