Solve or Transcend? Where is the motivation?

Problems. They are to be solved. That’s what I’m told business is all about and, now that Big Happy Life is a business, that’s what I must do. “You must solve a problem”, say the marketing experts and the sales gurus. “What problem do you solve?”, ask the mentors. I have grappled with this question…

Selflessness and the need for Balance

“I promise to do good and to always think of others before myself.” Brownie Promise – as I remember it! When I looked up the Brownie promise, I couldn’t find these words but I have distinct memories of reciting them, particularly the part about always think of others before myself. I don’t remember much else about…

The Difference between Emotions and Feelings (Podcast)

IS there a difference between emotions and feelings? Questions like this are frustrating to me because they’re simple questions with answers so complex it’s difficult to answer with 100% certainty. I’d hazard that if you asked 1000 psychologists, you’d have several hundred convinced one way, several hundred convinced the other way and the remaining several…

How many things are pulling on you?

**Updated from original post, October 2018** This is the story behind how Big Happy Life came to be. Simply put, the bigness of my life got in the way of the happiness of my life. I became depressed and, for a long time, lost sight of the strength I had within me. It was the…

Perseverance: Lessons from the Trauma lake

Although I’ve used trauma in the title, this post is not about trauma or surviving trauma. It’s about the lessons I took from a concept I discovered whilst researching the effects of trauma on children. What I found led me to consider the ways we can shape and shift perspective when we’re making herculean efforts…

Day 63: Sugar withdrawal feels awful!

Now I remember why I’ve never succeeded at quitting sugar. Withdrawal feels just like depression. In fact, according to healthline.com depression and anxiety are two possible symptoms of sugar withdrawal, along with changes in sleep patterns, cognitive issues and cravings. Yup. Check. Check. And check. My brain feels like it’s offline. I wake up exhausted and stay…