Practical Steps to Better Feeling Thoughts (Podcast)

Trying to change or control thoughts is massively challenging. It is often unproductive and, more often than not, feels like an attempt to pick a fight with mist. Still, I regularly find myself trying to do it. I’m a great believer in the power of thought. I’m always trying to make my thoughts more productive…

What is under the water?

Make sure your worst enemy doesn’t live between your two ears. Laird Hamilton Listen to the podcast episode here. You’re in a jungle. You’re up to your waist in murky water, wading barefoot, stepping carefully from one sharp or slippery surface to the next. Working out where to place your feet is tricky and the…

I want results for me! Me! Me!

I made a pledge to myself a year ago. I will live my life in ways I’m happy for my kids to copy. My kids are adopted. They had a tough start and we were advised that they would experience all kinds of deficits in terms of their development. Many believe these deficits are permanent….

Ask yourself a better question

Have you ever considered how powerful your questions are? What’s wrong with me? Our brains are diligent in their efforts to answer whatever questions we fire at them. No matter what we ask, our brains return with an answer. The drive to provide a plausible answer is so strong that the brain will add, change…

Help people treat you better

This post about the negative aspects of positive thinking inspired me to write today. It reminded me of a horrendous situation I faced almost two decades ago that caused me to leave a job I loved. Although stories are brilliant, this is a long one so here’s the abridged version: I had a job I…

All the power in thought

You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean in a drop. Rumi Have you ever stopped to think about the power you hold in your mind? Of course most of us know about the importance of positive thinking but have you ever really thought about how your thoughts weaken you…

What if you lost the things you take for granted?

Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for. Epicurus I have recently discovered stoic philosophy. In my 20’s,  just the word philosophy would have been enough to make me roll my eyes and, although I’m finding…

Do you agree with this statement about happiness?

A happy life isn’t a problem free or perfect life. It might not even be a particularly good life by western standards. A happy life is simply one where all parts of it are accepted and no pretence has to be made in order for the person to experience mental tranquility. This sentence is in…

Perseverance: Lessons from the Trauma lake

Although I’ve used trauma in the title, this post is not about trauma or surviving trauma. It’s about the lessons I took from a concept I discovered whilst researching the effects of trauma on children. What I found led me to consider the ways we can shape and shift perspective when we’re making herculean efforts…

Day 69: The energy in thoughts

I’m watching Wayne Dyer give a speech titled 10 Principles for a Life of Success and Peace. So many of the principles resonated, but the last one really struck a chord: Wisdom is avoiding all thoughts that weaken you. Dyer followed it up with this explanation: Every thought has an energy, just like everything else in…