Day 66: If it’s true for kids, it’s true for us

On Tuesday, a friend was visiting. During the conversation, she said, “I think what you’ve done is amazing. You’ve taken on children with problems,” People say this kind of thing to me quite a lot. It winds me up but that’s beside the point. Until then, I had forgotten something really important about how this…

Day 47: All things get better

It’s Max’s 4th birthday today. When we first met him, he was 17 months old. He adored my husband James instantly but he barely tolerated me. I remember trying to bond with him, surrounded by social workers and foster carers, and feeling like world’s most useless human. I didn’t know how to change a nappy,…

Day 41: The Coil of Self-Development

Powerlessness sucks. None of us likes it. But we live in a world that offers enough distractions to allow us to ignore the feelings of powerlessness unless or until they threaten to overwhelm us. We can choose alcohol, drugs, sex, video games, social media and a whole host of other distractions to avoid staring into…

Day 12: Unexpected gifts

It’s been a pretty rubbish day. James and I had a fight, Max – who is 3 – had a very public meltdown in IKEA and it took over 10 minutes to calm him down, then we lost him in the food hall and ended up having to run around yelling his description in the…