Why feeling rubbish can be easier than feeling happy

Several months ago, I wrote a post about asking better questions. The following day, I wrote this: Today it’s hard to care about making such efforts. The exhaustion of getting nowhere and of constantly struggling has reached the point of overwhelm. Every now and again, dark days descend and today is such a day. What…

Day 78: Finding the right Starting Point

I like the interplay between things. Where most people see cause and effect, I see multiple causes and a fair amount of randomness. Instead of: I see: Admittedly, this way of thinking creates more mess but it also creates more possibilities. When I became depressed a couple of years ago and was reaching the point…

Day 74: Vulnerability, Courage and Understanding

Their lack of understanding only grows in your silence. Brendon Burchard As I watch my daughter work so hard to navigate the world of friendships and acceptance, I fear for her confidence and self-esteem.¬†She keeps bouncing back but each day there are knocks. I still remember some of the more brutal moments from school –…

How to think positively when you don’t feel positive (Podcast)

We know there is benefit in positive thinking but what if you’re just not up to it right now? Are you doomed to a life of dissatisfaction and discontent? No. But negative thinking pretty much guarantees it. This post is about shaping your thinking to be ‘productive’, rather than labelling it as ‘positive’ or ‘negative’….

The ‘seasons’ of happiness (Podcast)

Summer, autumn, winter, spring. They are finite and marked by predictable changes. One of the things I’ve noticed as I’ve delved deeper into the world of happiness and what creates it is that many people think it’s about a ‘year-round summer’. Thinking this way creates massive pressure to keep the good times – the summers…

Day 17: Darkness, broken eggs and hangovers

I woke up with a hangover this morning. Let me explain. Mood swings and low-level depression have formed part of my existence my entire life. I have actively resisted taking medication despite being advised on several occasions that this was my best option. I managed well enough and, before the kids, I’d say I was…