5 Lessons I’ve learned about adoptive parenting

They may not have my eyes. They may not have my smile, but they have all my heart. Unknown This morning, my daughter came bounding down the stairs just after 8am. She was smiling and we hugged each other good morning before she reached over and hugged her dad and they did this kind of…

How many things are pulling on you?

**Updated from original post, October 2018** This is the story behind how Big Happy Life came to be. Simply put, the bigness of my life got in the way of the happiness of my life. I became depressed and, for a long time, lost sight of the strength I had within me. It was the…

How the story changes reality

Picture it. A four year old boy’s bedroom. 7.20pm. He is screaming and crying on floor. His mother sits near him on the floor. She is speaking to him in a soothing voice in an attempt to calm him. “Noooooooo! I WANT DADDY!! GO AWAY!!!” he screams. “Let me help you calm down and then…

Day 66: If it’s true for kids, it’s true for us

On Tuesday, a friend was visiting. During the conversation, she said, “I think what you’ve done is amazing. You’ve taken on children with problems,” People say this kind of thing to me quite a lot. It winds me up but that’s beside the point. Until then, I had forgotten something really important about how this…

Day 19: What a difference a day makes

I’ve been a cow the last couple of days. Not to put too fine a point on it. I’ve been grumpy, intolerant and miserable and it took nothing to send me over the edge. This morning, still feeling a little prickly, I decided to take the morning off from my usual routine and seek some…

Life lessons from 1000 piece puzzle

I originally wrote this in a notebook in December 2016. I was 10 weeks into adoptive parenting and¬†remember writing this as though it was yesterday. I was feeling like a failure as a mum and was scared I wouldn’t have what it takes to¬†build a family and give my children the love and security they…