How the story changes reality

Picture it. A four year old boy’s bedroom. 7.20pm. He is screaming and crying on floor. His mother sits near him on the floor. She is speaking to him in a soothing voice in an attempt to calm him. “Noooooooo! I WANT DADDY!! GO AWAY!!!” he screams. “Let me help you calm down and then…

Day 66: If it’s true for kids, it’s true for us

On Tuesday, a friend was visiting. During the conversation, she said, “I think what you’ve done is amazing. You’ve taken on children with problems,” People say this kind of thing to me quite a lot. It winds me up but that’s beside the point. Until then, I had forgotten something really important about how this…

Day 19: What a difference a day makes

I’ve been a cow the last couple of days. Not to put too fine a point on it. I’ve been grumpy, intolerant and miserable and it took nothing to send me over the edge. This morning, still feeling a little prickly, I decided to take the morning off from my usual routine and seek some…

Life lessons from 1000 piece puzzle

I originally wrote this in a notebook in December 2016. I was 10 weeks into adoptive parenting and¬†remember writing this as though it was yesterday. I was feeling like a failure as a mum and was scared I wouldn’t have what it takes to¬†build a family and give my children the love and security they…