Day 66: If it’s true for kids, it’s true for us

On Tuesday, a friend was visiting. During the conversation, she said, “I think what you’ve done is amazing. You’ve taken on children with problems,” People say this kind of thing to me quite a lot. It winds me up but that’s beside the point. Until then, I had forgotten something really important about how this…

Day 47: All things get better

It’s Max’s 4th birthday today. When we first met him, he was 17 months old. He adored my husband James instantly but he barely tolerated me. I remember trying to bond with him, surrounded by social workers and foster carers, and feeling like world’s most useless human. I didn’t know how to change a nappy,…

Day 19: What a difference a day makes

I’ve been a cow the last couple of days. Not to put too fine a point on it. I’ve been grumpy, intolerant and miserable and it took nothing to send me over the edge. This morning, still feeling a little prickly, I decided to take the morning off from my usual routine and seek some…

Day 17: Darkness, broken eggs and hangovers

I woke up with a hangover this morning. Let me explain. Mood swings and low-level depression have formed part of my existence my entire life. I have actively resisted taking medication despite being advised on several occasions that this was my best option. I managed well enough and, before the kids, I’d say I was…

Day 12: Unexpected gifts

It’s been a pretty rubbish day. James and I had a fight, Max – who is 3 – had a very public meltdown in IKEA and it took over 10 minutes to calm him down, then we lost him in the food hall and ended up having to run around yelling his description in the…

Creating a family one tradition at a time

Family traditions – when they’re enjoyed – offer predictability, stability and something to look forward to. They provide a framework around which other parts of life can build. In families with adopted children, creating family traditions that everyone loves is one of the greatest ways to help children experience belonging and enjoy a sense of…

How many ways are you being pulled?

Yesterday I was thinking about what “big happy life” is really about. Simply put, the bigness of my life got in the way of the happiness of my life and this is my way of making a conscious effort to change that and track my progress. As I was thinking about it, I remembered an…