Breaking and Rebuilding – The making of a mum (Part 1)

Part 1 “How do I take what I’m learning about myself and actually change how I’m living?” This is the question Dr Brené Brown says she is asked most often by followers of her work.  I asked a similar question at 5.38am on 8 December 2016 as I lay in my bed crying, wondering how…

5 Lessons I’ve learned about adoptive parenting

They may not have my eyes. They may not have my smile, but they have all my heart. Unknown This morning, my daughter came bounding down the stairs just after 8am. She was smiling and we hugged each other good morning before she reached over and hugged her dad and they did this kind of…

Day 66: If it’s true for kids, it’s true for us

On Tuesday, a friend was visiting. During the conversation, she said, “I think what you’ve done is amazing. You’ve taken on children with problems,” People say this kind of thing to me quite a lot. It winds me up but that’s beside the point. Until then, I had forgotten something really important about how this…

Life lessons from 1000 piece puzzle

I originally wrote this in a notebook in December 2016. I was 10 weeks into adoptive parenting and remember writing this as though it was yesterday. I was feeling like a failure as a mum and was scared I wouldn’t have what it takes to build a family and give my children the love and security they…