Day 41: The Coil of Self-Development

Powerlessness sucks. None of us likes it. But we live in a world that offers enough distractions to allow us to ignore the feelings of powerlessness unless or until they threaten to overwhelm us. We can choose alcohol, drugs, sex, video games, social media and a whole host of other distractions to avoid staring into…

Day 40: My very own Lent!

I did it! I have achieved something I swore blind was impossible! I’ve gone 40 days without a single drop of alcohol. Forty days marks a specific milestone for me because of lent. I grew up Christian and although I’m not practicing, lent has provided an annual reminder to me that I simply could not…

Day 39: Weight Loss

No dieting. No starving myself. No foods off limits. Yet I’m 4 kilograms lighter and have lost a total of 16cm off my waist, hips, arms and legs! My clothes fit better and no parts of me billow over the waistband of my jeans. Admittedly, it’s not just abstinence from alcohol. Having more energy means…

Day 38: The dopamine fast that wasn’t

Last week I read this post about Dopamine Fasting and decided to give it a try. It seemed like a good way to boost the navel gazing I’ve already been doing since ditching alcohol. In case you’re wondering, dopamine fasting, as explained by Man of Myth involves isolating yourself from all pleasure in order to…

Willpower and Moral Licensing (Blog and Podcast)

This podcast episode is Part 6 of 6 in the “Goals and Habits” Series In this episode, we look at willpower in general and also explore the effect of labelling your habits (or yourself) as ‘good’ or ‘bad’. In Short: Willpower is finite is depleted by: stress lack of sleep can be trained and strengthened…

Day 37: Five Elements of Transformation

I just found a really neat little model to explain why I’m finding this period of abstinence so darn easy – and why I found it so difficult before. In Jim Kwik’s Superbrain course, he covers something called “The 5 levels of Transformation”. I’ve changed it to elements because levels make it sound like they…

Day 36: The Privilege of a Lifetime

The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are. Joseph Campbell Rejection. I’ve thought a lot about it recently. Mini is having trouble at school – her friends don’t want to play with her anymore and neither she nor I can get to the bottom of what’s going on. When I pick her up…