How good is it possible to feel?

This question has been on my mind for a while. Honestly, I feel as though I’ve done everything to feel ‘better’. I’m up at 5.30am. I exercise, I meditate, I write in a journal, I make fresh vegetable juices every day, I eat mountains of salad at lunch time, I spend time doing work I…

I’d like to show you the power of your thoughts

If you haven’t done this little experiment before, I hope it will make you smile and give you a little ‘a-ha’ moment for the day. That’s what it does for most of the participants in my workshops. Start by watching this video. Now watch this video. If you’re like the participants I work with in…

Don’t over host negative emotions

Have you ever had those house guests who need loads of looking after but see themselves as easy-breezy? You know the ones who like things ‘just so’ and then make it seem like you’re a bit of a fuss pot for trying to make things just so? Those guests really bug me and I’m happy…

The Difference between Emotions and Feelings (Podcast)

IS there a difference between emotions and feelings? Questions like this are frustrating to me because they’re simple questions with answers so complex it’s difficult to answer with 100% certainty. I’d hazard that if you asked 1000 psychologists, you’d have several hundred convinced one way, several hundred convinced the other way and the remaining several…

Step back to move forwards (Podcast)

Listen to the podcast here Retreat (verb) To withdraw from enemy forces as a result of their superior power or after a defeat. Retreat (noun) The act of moving back or withdrawing Life holds challenges for all of us. Sometimes we feel able to cope and other times the challenges overwhelm and overpower us. In…

Focus to feel better

If you want to change your life, you must change your mind and change your brain. On purpose. Bill Crawford Malfunction or Dysfunction? When it comes to changing your brain, the distinction between these two things matters. Before reading Daniel Amen’s books, I had never thought about it. Dr Amen explains the difference this way:…

Practical Steps to Better Feeling Thoughts (Podcast)

Trying to change or control thoughts is massively challenging. It is often unproductive and, more often than not, feels like an attempt to pick a fight with mist. Still, I regularly find myself trying to do it. I’m a great believer in the power of thought. I’m always trying to make my thoughts more productive…

Starter pistol thought

Do you have thoughts that repeatedly sabotage you? Those thoughts that whisper and whip through your mind so fast you can’t see them, twisting your behaviour so you betray yourself and end up right back where you started despite all your efforts to do better? Today I uncovered one such thought; a barbed, little devil-thorn…

Why feeling rubbish can be easier than feeling happy

Several months ago, I wrote a post about asking better questions. The following day, I wrote this: Today it’s hard to care about making such efforts. The exhaustion of getting nowhere and of constantly struggling has reached the point of overwhelm. Every now and again, dark days descend and today is such a day. What…

How I broke the link between bad days and alcohol

7.26pm. A packed commuter train. I left home almost 14 hours ago. I’m sweating. My trousers have ripped. It’s been a hard day. I’m shattered and I’m going to miss my kids’ bedtimes. This was the scene as I travelled home from work earlier this week. I felt broken. That was until it hit me…