How sharing your darkest thoughts can help others

Are there things you really dislike about yourself – things you try hard not to think about if you can avoid them? Me too. Yet, today I had lunch with a friend – a fellow trainer who specialises in Mental Health First Aid courses. She and I talked about work, love, parenting and a whole…

Day 76: Socialising is much more difficult

I thought I had nailed the whole alcohol-free, sugar-free thing. Well, maybe not the sugar-free thing. I am not enjoying that at all! Today proved me wrong. The way I feel right now, I’m wondering whether the only thing that’s making this easy is my lack of social life. We had a wonderful afternoon with…

How to think positively when you don’t feel positive (Podcast)

We know there is benefit in positive thinking but what if you’re just not up to it right now? Are you doomed to a life of dissatisfaction and discontent? No. But negative thinking pretty much guarantees it. This post is about shaping your thinking to be ‘productive’, rather than labelling it as ‘positive’ or ‘negative’….

Day 72: The joy of things

Last night, I watched “The Joy of Tidying Up” on Netflix. Oh. My. Goodness. What an inspiration! I couldn’t sleep as the lessons from the show bounced around in my head. It wasn’t until this morning that my understanding of what I had learned fell into place. The show sees Marie Kondo working with a…

Day 70: Honour the Struggle

The US Special Forces say, “Embrace the Suck.” Bredon Burchard calls it honouring the struggle. Either way, the point is simple. You don’t get anywhere good without going through something uncomfortable – or downright awful – first. Of course, there is no comparison between what I am doing and what the US Special Forces go…

Day 66: If it’s true for kids, it’s true for us

On Tuesday, a friend was visiting. During the conversation, she said, “I think what you’ve done is amazing. You’ve taken on children with problems,” People say this kind of thing to me quite a lot. It winds me up but that’s beside the point. Until then, I had forgotten something really important about how this…

Day 53: Testing my process for giving up a bad habit

Part of the reason for giving up alcohol was to determine whether or not I had created a habit change process that was robust enough to hold up in the face of a habit I thought I couldn’t break. It was. But. Many other things changed in my life at the same time. The process…

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Bloggers

I definitely need to work on the ‘consistent voice’ part. Which parts, if any, do you need to work on? The Art of Blogging Do you want to be a successful blogger? Do ideas for posts randomly pop into your head whenever, wherever? Do you think about ways to improve your blog? How to write…

Rewards and Judgement (Blog and Podcast)

Photo by Nathan Dumlao on Unsplash This podcast episode forms part 5 of 6 in the “Goals and Habits” series. Listen here. In Short: Set up your new habits so they feel rewarding to you, right from the start Develop a sense of acceptance – of yourself and your fallibility. A slip doesn’t mean it’s…

Values: Why they Matter (Podcast)

If the ladder is not leaning against the right wall, every step we take just gets us to the wrong place faster. Stephen Covey Episode 2 in the “Goals and Habits” Series. Listen here. (If you missed Episode 1 – Goals: How to set great ones – you can find it here) In short: When…