Solve or Transcend? Where is the motivation?

Problems. They are to be solved. That’s what I’m told business is all about and, now that Big Happy Life is a business, that’s what I must do. “You must solve a problem”, say the marketing experts and the sales gurus. “What problem do you solve?”, ask the mentors. I have grappled with this question…

Day 10: Two voices

I confess, I don’t think I’m going to make it to 100 days. Saying that goes against everything I know (and everything I teach) about developing the strength to break habits. Rule 1 is, ‘You have to believe you can do it’. I suppose that’s part of my problem. I believe I can. I just…

The Next Test – From numbing to feeling it all

When the only tool you have is a hammer, you tend to see every problem as a nail. Abraham Maslow Numbing strategies like food and alcohol enter our lives long before any deep and deliberate education about how to feel our feelings without losing our grip on happiness, reality, ourselves or our most important relationships….

The Rules for Being Human — Be Inspired..!! (Reblog)

When you were born, you didn’t come with an owner’s manual; these guidelines make life work better. You will receive a body – You may like it or not, but it will be yours for the entire period round. You will learn lessons – You are enrolled in a full time, informal school called life. […]…

I’d like to show you the power of your thoughts

If you haven’t done this little experiment before, I hope it will make you smile and give you a little ‘a-ha’ moment for the day. That’s what it does for most of the participants in my workshops. Start by watching this video. Now watch this video. If you’re like the participants I work with in…

Why feeling rubbish can be easier than feeling happy

Several months ago, I wrote a post about asking better questions. The following day, I wrote this: Today it’s hard to care about making such efforts. The exhaustion of getting nowhere and of constantly struggling has reached the point of overwhelm. Every now and again, dark days descend and today is such a day. What…

What is under the water?

Make sure your worst enemy doesn’t live between your two ears. Laird Hamilton Listen to the podcast episode here. You’re in a jungle. You’re up to your waist in murky water, wading barefoot, stepping carefully from one sharp or slippery surface to the next. Working out where to place your feet is tricky and the…

I want results for me! Me! Me!

I made a pledge to myself a year ago. I will live my life in ways I’m happy for my kids to copy. My kids are adopted. They had a tough start and we were advised that they would experience all kinds of deficits in terms of their development. Many believe these deficits are permanent….

Ask yourself a better question

Have you ever considered how powerful your questions are? What’s wrong with me? Our brains are diligent in their efforts to answer whatever questions we fire at them. No matter what we ask, our brains return with an answer. The drive to provide a plausible answer is so strong that the brain will add, change…

All the power in thought

You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean in a drop. Rumi Have you ever stopped to think about the power you hold in your mind? Of course most of us know about the importance of positive thinking but have you ever really thought about how your thoughts weaken you…