Step back to move forwards (Podcast)

Listen to the podcast here Retreat (verb) To withdraw from enemy forces as a result of their superior power or after a defeat. Retreat (noun) The act of moving back or withdrawing Life holds challenges for all of us. Sometimes we feel able to cope and other times the challenges overwhelm and overpower us. In…

Focus to feel better

If you want to change your life, you must change your mind and change your brain. On purpose. Bill Crawford Malfunction or Dysfunction? When it comes to changing your brain, the distinction between these two things matters. Before reading Daniel Amen’s books, I had never thought about it. Dr Amen explains the difference this way:…

Home schooling Day 1: Doubts and insecurities

Our morning started with whoops and cheers and high 5’s. I was optimistic. I believed I was well prepared. I was well prepared. Just not well enough. I had prepared activities and timetables, tasks and places to work but I had neglected to prepare myself fully for what lay ahead. Our first activity was PE…

What is under the water?

Make sure your worst enemy doesn’t live between your two ears. Laird Hamilton Listen to the podcast episode here. You’re in a jungle. You’re up to your waist in murky water, wading barefoot, stepping carefully from one sharp or slippery surface to the next. Working out where to place your feet is tricky and the…

Perseverance: Lessons from the Trauma lake

Although I’ve used trauma in the title, this post is not about trauma or surviving trauma. It’s about the lessons I took from a concept I discovered whilst researching the effects of trauma on children. What I found led me to consider the ways we can shape and shift perspective when we’re making herculean efforts…

Are we comfortable or are we stuck?

I used to use mottos like this one. After all, what’s the point if you can’t enjoy a glass of wine and a piece of cake, right? The trouble is, for me, those things cost me far more happiness than they ever brought. I wanted to enjoy them but they were a source of anxiety…

Day 77: Making self-development work for me

Too much self-development can make you feel worse. Have you ever done that thing where you read a guru book, feel inspired, try to make the changes they suggest and end up just having a new reason to judge yourself harshly? Me too. In fact, over the years, the more I learned the more that…

Is your weakness really a strength?

Podcast Episode 10. Listen here. In short: Our strengths serve us well in many situations but they don’t serve us well in all situations. When we play our strengths too often or in situations where they don’t add benefit, they can present as weaknesses. Our strengths can also be perceived as weaknesses by others who…

I am glad I am not…

In “Change your Beliefs, Change your life“, Dr. Nick Hall proposes a theory for shifting mindset when you find yourself in tough situations. I liked the concept instantly, largely because of how Dr. Hall explains it (I’m listening on Audible). The basic gist is that you’re shifting your alternative image to make the current situation…

Life lessons from 1000 piece puzzle

I originally wrote this in a notebook in December 2016. I was 10 weeks into adoptive parenting and¬†remember writing this as though it was yesterday. I was feeling like a failure as a mum and was scared I wouldn’t have what it takes to¬†build a family and give my children the love and security they…