Perseverance: Lessons from the Trauma lake

Although I’ve used trauma in the title, this post is not about trauma or surviving trauma. It’s about the lessons I took from a concept I discovered whilst researching the effects of trauma on children. What I found led me to consider the ways we can shape and shift perspective when we’re making herculean efforts…

Are we comfortable or are we stuck?

I used to use mottos like this one. After all, what’s the point if you can’t enjoy a glass of wine and a piece of cake, right? The trouble is, for me, those things cost me far more happiness than they ever brought. I wanted to enjoy them but they were a source of anxiety…

Day 77: Making self-development work for me

Too much self-development can make you feel worse. Have you ever done that thing where you read a guru book, feel inspired, try to make the changes they suggest and end up just having a new reason to judge yourself harshly? Me too. In fact, over the years, the more I learned the more that…

Is your weakness really a strength?

Podcast Episode 10. Listen here. In short: Our strengths serve us well in many situations but they don’t serve us well in all situations. When we play our strengths too often or in situations where they don’t add benefit, they can present as weaknesses. Our strengths can also be perceived as weaknesses by others who…

I am glad I am not…

In “Change your Beliefs, Change your life“, Dr. Nick Hall proposes a theory for shifting mindset when you find yourself in tough situations. I liked the concept instantly, largely because of how Dr. Hall explains it (I’m listening on Audible). The basic gist is that you’re shifting your alternative image to make the current situation…

Life lessons from 1000 piece puzzle

I originally wrote this in a notebook in December 2016. I was 10 weeks into adoptive parenting and¬†remember writing this as though it was yesterday. I was feeling like a failure as a mum and was scared I wouldn’t have what it takes to¬†build a family and give my children the love and security they…

Beliefs – cherish or chuck?

How is it possible that we all have such great potential yet so few of us end up living our dream lives? As a child, I wanted to be an actress. I was going to win my first Academy Award in the year 2000 and it would be presented to me by Sylvester Stallone (Don’t…