How the story changes reality

Picture it. A four year old boy’s bedroom. 7.20pm. He is screaming and crying on floor. His mother sits near him on the floor. She is speaking to him in a soothing voice in an attempt to calm him. “Noooooooo! I WANT DADDY!! GO AWAY!!!” he screams. “Let me help you calm down and then…

Transcendental Meditation: I finally get how meditation should work!

I have been trying to meditate for years. I paid for an annual Headspace subscription, I read up about Kirtan Kriya meditation and practiced that for several months, I subscribed to Insights Timer and used a variety of guided meditations, some in the morning and some in the evening. No matter what I tried, meditation…

Do you agree with this statement about happiness?

A happy life isn’t a problem free or perfect life. It might not even be a particularly good life by western standards. A happy life is simply one where all parts of it are accepted and no pretence has to be made in order for the person to experience mental tranquility. This sentence is in…

Improving your life: These two statements can help

In my efforts to improve my life, I’m paying attention to my thoughts, feelings and actions. In doing so, I’m also paying attention to the things that build resilience in my thoughts, bolster my feelings and lead me to take actions that result in the creation of my dream life – my big happy life….

Day 80: Shame

I have opened Pandora’s box. Inside, it are some lies I’ve been telling myself – and, by extension, everyone else. On Day 61, I wrote, “Because we love ourselves, not so that we love ourselves”. In that post, I shared that I was worried because my 9-year-old daughter decided to do 40 days sugar-free alongside…

Day 72: The joy of things

Last night, I watched “The Joy of Tidying Up” on Netflix. Oh. My. Goodness. What an inspiration! I couldn’t sleep as the lessons from the show bounced around in my head. It wasn’t until this morning that my understanding of what I had learned fell into place. The show sees Marie Kondo working with a…

The ‘seasons’ of happiness (Podcast)

Summer, autumn, winter, spring. They are finite and marked by predictable changes. One of the things I’ve noticed as I’ve delved deeper into the world of happiness and what creates it is that many people think it’s about a ‘year-round summer’. Thinking this way creates massive pressure to keep the good times – the summers…