Selflessness and the need for Balance

“I promise to do good and to always think of others before myself.” Brownie Promise – as I remember it! When I looked up the Brownie promise, I couldn’t find these words but I have distinct memories of reciting them, particularly the part about always think of others before myself. I don’t remember much else about…

The Next Test – From numbing to feeling it all

When the only tool you have is a hammer, you tend to see every problem as a nail. Abraham Maslow Numbing strategies like food and alcohol enter our lives long before any deep and deliberate education about how to feel our feelings without losing our grip on happiness, reality, ourselves or our most important relationships….

I’d like to show you the power of your thoughts

If you haven’t done this little experiment before, I hope it will make you smile and give you a little ‘a-ha’ moment for the day. That’s what it does for most of the participants in my workshops. Start by watching this video. Now watch this video. If you’re like the participants I work with in…

Discovering the words of Milarepa

The fighting in my head has been loud lately and I have been trying to find my way to something more peaceful. “Milarepa’s advice to Palderbum” opened a little door in my mind and created some space to see things a little differently: “I can contemplate the sea but the waves make me uneasy; Milarepa…

Don’t over host negative emotions

Have you ever had those house guests who need loads of looking after but see themselves as easy-breezy? You know the ones who like things ‘just so’ and then make it seem like you’re a bit of a fuss pot for trying to make things just so? Those guests really bug me and I’m happy…

Do I feel safe in my body?

What a strange question! It would never have occurred to me to ask this question and I’m grateful for the prompt – which came from Episode 3 of the Transcendance documentary on Gaia. I needed it. The monsters are attacking me again. The claws and teeth of judgemental thoughts are scratching and biting. “Bad mother….

The Difference between Emotions and Feelings (Podcast)

IS there a difference between emotions and feelings? Questions like this are frustrating to me because they’re simple questions with answers so complex it’s difficult to answer with 100% certainty. I’d hazard that if you asked 1000 psychologists, you’d have several hundred convinced one way, several hundred convinced the other way and the remaining several…

Step back to move forwards (Podcast)

Listen to the podcast here Retreat (verb) To withdraw from enemy forces as a result of their superior power or after a defeat. Retreat (noun) The act of moving back or withdrawing Life holds challenges for all of us. Sometimes we feel able to cope and other times the challenges overwhelm and overpower us. In…

Focus to feel better

If you want to change your life, you must change your mind and change your brain. On purpose. Bill Crawford Malfunction or Dysfunction? When it comes to changing your brain, the distinction between these two things matters. Before reading Daniel Amen’s books, I had never thought about it. Dr Amen explains the difference this way:…