The Next Test – From numbing to feeling it all

When the only tool you have is a hammer, you tend to see every problem as a nail. Abraham Maslow Numbing strategies like food and alcohol enter our lives long before any deep and deliberate education about how to feel our feelings without losing our grip on happiness, reality, ourselves or our most important relationships….

Don’t over host negative emotions

Have you ever had those house guests who need loads of looking after but see themselves as easy-breezy? You know the ones who like things ‘just so’ and then make it seem like you’re a bit of a fuss pot for trying to make things just so? Those guests really bug me and I’m happy…

Do I feel safe in my body?

What a strange question! It would never have occurred to me to ask this question and I’m grateful for the prompt – which came from Episode 3 of the Transcendance documentary on Gaia. I needed it. The monsters are attacking me again. The claws and teeth of judgemental thoughts are scratching and biting. “Bad mother….

Emotions and Feelings – The Hidden Value and Power (Podcast)

The world of self-development and positive thinking makes it easy to be disdainful of ‘negative’ emotions but lately I’ve come to think of them a little differently. Did you know that without emotions, you’d struggle to make any decisions? Even choosing a sandwich filling would be difficult! Emotions provide ‘towards’ or ‘away from’ signals to…

The Difference between Emotions and Feelings (Podcast)

IS there a difference between emotions and feelings? Questions like this are frustrating to me because they’re simple questions with answers so complex it’s difficult to answer with 100% certainty. I’d hazard that if you asked 1000 psychologists, you’d have several hundred convinced one way, several hundred convinced the other way and the remaining several…