Perseverance: Lessons from the Trauma lake

Although I’ve used trauma in the title, this post is not about trauma or surviving trauma. It’s about the lessons I took from a concept I discovered whilst researching the effects of trauma on children. What I found led me to consider the ways we can shape and shift perspective when we’re making herculean efforts…

How I broke the link between bad days and alcohol

7.26pm. A packed commuter train. I left home almost 14 hours ago. I’m sweating. My trousers have ripped. It’s been a hard day. I’m shattered and I’m going to miss my kids’ bedtimes. This was the scene as I travelled home from work earlier this week. I felt broken. That was until it hit me…

Are we comfortable or are we stuck?

I used to use mottos like this one. After all, what’s the point if you can’t enjoy a glass of wine and a piece of cake, right? The trouble is, for me, those things cost me far more happiness than they ever brought. I wanted to enjoy them but they were a source of anxiety…

Can a heavy drinker become a moderate drinker?

After completing 107 days alcohol free, I was feeling pretty confident.┬áThen the Easter weekend happened. Friday involved a barbecue where I had 3 small glasses of Prosecco – but I was on alert the entire time about how much I was drinking and how much others were drinking. The following night, I had two friends…

Should I quit drinking permanently?

Yesterday I drank alcohol for the first time since completing 100 days without it. On day 100, I was torn between remaining alcohol-free and seeking to drink in moderation. By day 103, I had decided I’d go for moderation and set these rules for myself (admittedly, unwritten rules until right now): No drinking alone No…

Improving your life: These two statements can help

In my efforts to improve my life, I’m paying attention to my thoughts, feelings and actions. In doing so, I’m also paying attention to the things that build resilience in my thoughts, bolster my feelings and lead me to take actions that result in the creation of my dream life – my big happy life….

Day 1: Proving something to myself

I love wine. It’s me time at the end of my day, it’s a gorgeous treat on sunny holiday lunches, it’s socialising, celebrating, relaxing, unwinding, letting your hair down and commiserating when things don’t go as you’d hoped. Trust me, it’s not lost on my that wine cannot serve all those purposes and the fact…