Day 88: Lesson 3 from quitting booze and sugar. Have a mantra.

I’ve never been one for mantras but wow! They’re pretty handy little things if you have good ones! I had two to help me when I quit drinking. Neither of them is original but as soon as I heard them, they really resonated with me. The first was from “The Unexpected Joy of being Sober”…

Day 86: Fifteen Lessons from quitting drinking and sugar. Lesson 1: Lagom

I have 15 blogs left between now and completing my alcohol and sugar-free experiment and since I’ve learned so much from the process, I thought I’d share some of the best lessons in these last blogs. Here’s the first one: Lagom A Swedish concept, “The Law of Lagom” describes something that is ‘just enough’ or…

Day 85: A chance conversation on the train

I was reminded yesterday about the difference between knowing and doing. On my way home from work, a man struck up a conversation with me. During the conversation, he shared all of these details: he has to review a document sent to him by his legal team, he drinks a bottle of red wine most…

Day 84: The link between numbing and anxiety

This morning I heard something the blew me away – not because I didn’t know it but because I did, and I just hadn’t thought about it this way before. I was listening to Brene Brown talk through the lessons in “The Power of Vulnerability” ¬†when she said : In my data, in my research,…

Day 83: Does therapy have to be the next step?

Have you ever felt certain about your ability to achieve something, only to find out half way through that you had no idea what you were getting yourself into – at best you were underprepared, at worst, completely mistaken. I’ve reached that point. I’ve always subscribed to the humanistic approach to psychology – an approach…

Day 81: I’m not wallowing, I’m juicing

A friend of mine once advised me to wallow in negative feelings rather than fight them. I tried it many times – I just didn’t realise I had misinterpreted his advice. When difficult emotions overtook me, I made no effort to do anything to feel better. I let my thoughts bodyslam me and didn’t even…

Day 80: Shame

I have opened Pandora’s box. Inside, it are some lies I’ve been telling myself – and, by extension, everyone else. On Day 61, I wrote, “Because we love ourselves, not so that we love ourselves”. In that post, I shared that I was worried because my 9-year-old daughter decided to do 40 days sugar-free alongside…

Day 78: Finding the right Starting Point

I like the interplay between things. Where most people see cause and effect, I see multiple causes and a fair amount of randomness. Instead of: I see: Admittedly, this way of thinking creates more mess but it also creates more possibilities. When I became depressed a couple of years ago and was reaching the point…