Day 80: Shame

I have opened Pandora’s box. Inside, it are some lies I’ve been telling myself – and, by extension, everyone else. On Day 61, I wrote, “Because we love ourselves, not so that we love ourselves”. In that post, I shared that I was worried because my 9-year-old daughter decided to do 40 days sugar-free alongside…

Day 78: Finding the right Starting Point

I like the interplay between things. Where most people see cause and effect, I see multiple causes and a fair amount of randomness. Instead of: I see: Admittedly, this way of thinking creates more mess but it also creates more possibilities. When I became depressed a couple of years ago and was reaching the point…

Day 77: Making self-development work for me

Too much self-development can make you feel worse. Have you ever done that thing where you read a guru book, feel inspired, try to make the changes they suggest and end up just having a new reason to judge yourself harshly? Me too. In fact, over the years, the more I learned the more that…

Day 76: Socialising is much more difficult

I thought I had nailed the whole alcohol-free, sugar-free thing. Well, maybe not the sugar-free thing. I am not enjoying that at all! Today proved me wrong. The way I feel right now, I’m wondering whether the only thing that’s making this easy is my lack of social life. We had a wonderful afternoon with…

Day 74: Vulnerability, Courage and Understanding

Their lack of understanding only grows in your silence. Brendon Burchard As I watch my daughter work so hard to navigate the world of friendships and acceptance, I fear for her confidence and self-esteem.¬†She keeps bouncing back but each day there are knocks. I still remember some of the more brutal moments from school –…

Day 73: Making the most of energy flow

I’m untidy. A fact that matters far more than I thought it did. I already knew that surroundings and environment could have a big impact on behaviour – if you’re in doubt, consider your answers to these questions: Do you think and behave the same way in an office as you would in a football stadium?…

Day 72: The joy of things

Last night, I watched “The Joy of Tidying Up” on Netflix. Oh. My. Goodness. What an inspiration! I couldn’t sleep as the lessons from the show bounced around in my head. It wasn’t until this morning that my understanding of what I had learned fell into place. The show sees Marie Kondo working with a…

Day 71: An unexpected trigger

I cooked a delicious meal tonight. My son’s nursery produced a cookbook full of the recipes they use for the kids’ meals and I tried my hand at the “Beef and Bean Crumble”. It was full of wholesome ingredients but tasted like comfort food and I ate two portions. Way too much food for me….

Day 70: Honour the Struggle

The US Special Forces say, “Embrace the Suck.” Bredon Burchard calls it honouring the struggle. Either way, the point is simple. You don’t get anywhere good without going through something uncomfortable – or downright awful – first. Of course, there is no comparison between what I am doing and what the US Special Forces go…