Day 44: Reverse Bucket List

A few weeks ago, I interviewed the founder of The Supermum Society for my podcast (The episode will be published tomorrow) and she talked about something called The Reverse Bucket List.

I had heard about it before but never done it. The concept is a simple one. Instead of writing down all the things you hope to achieve, you write all the things you’ve already accomplished. You create a list of things that makes you feel proud. Although bucket lists can be inspiring, they can also create a sense of overwhelm and provide a reminder that you’re ‘not quite there yet’ so the idea of a reverse bucket list is to show you how far you’ve come and boost your feelings of self-confidence and self-belief.

After my realisation yesterday that I still have a monumental climb ahead of me if I’m to tackle my last remaining vice, I figured I could use a little mental boost. Plus, it’s the perfect task to keep me occupied in the waiting room of my daughter’s play therapy session. If you’re a regular reader, you know how much I love it here. Not.

My list of things that make me feel proud includes:

  1. I graduated Drama School and performed in two professional productions.
  2. I was the lead singer in a band (Ok, they were called Clapham Funktion and the Fruit People – but I’m still proud!)
  3. I blagged my way into and back out of Brussels without a passport (It was 1999. Things were different then.)
  4. I hitchhiked 150km across Cyprus to meet a friend for dinner.
  5. I left Cape Town and came to the UK on my own, aged 21 with nothing but a backpack full of clothes and £80.
  6. I worked my way up from no home, no job, no contacts and no money to running my own business, owning my home and having people I love and who love me.
  7. I married a wonderful man and, together, we built a relationship that still makes us both happy every day.
  8. I beat a 20+year eating disorder
  9. I completed my BSc (Hons) in Psychology with Distinction whilst working full time
  10. I started my own training business and went from £0 revenue to six figures
  11. I adopted two children and became a stay at home mum
  12. I gave speeches to audiences of hundreds of people and ran training courses in 43 countries
  13. I built up my fitness so I went from only being able to run for 1 – 2 minutes to being able to run 10 kilometres.
  14. I started this blog
  15. I stopped drinking alcohol

Ooh! That was fun! I can recommend this practice! It’s so easy to forget how strong we are and how much we’re capable of withstanding until we sit down and think about all the things we’ve already been achieved. I was in danger of losing perspective and this has pulled me right back. I feel MUCH better about my ability to face the challenges ahead of me.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed with the challenges that await you, I suggest giving this a try.

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2 Comments Add yours

  1. Georgia King says:

    This is so cool! What a great idea!

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    1. Big Happy Life says:

      Yeah, I really enjoyed doing it. I’m so glad Jessica mentioned it. I’d love to hear how yours goes if you decide to do it.

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