I’ve been a cow the last couple of days. Not to put too fine a point on it. I’ve been grumpy, intolerant and miserable and it took nothing to send me over the edge.
This morning, still feeling a little prickly, I decided to take the morning off from my usual routine and seek some inspiration instead. Rather than HIIT training, Wim Hof breathing and Superbrain training I watched a documentary titled “The Abundance Code” on Food Matters TV (FMTV) and Wow! What a difference it made to how the day unfolded. Watching the documentary made me aware of the ways in which I still adopt a scarcity mindset. It left me feeling uplifted and inspired, thinking about how I could adopt a mindset of abundance in my life by simply asking, “how can I help?” instead of “what can I achieve?”
So when Max had another meltdown, I had that thought in my mind. How can I help? With that mindset, I had no trouble staying calm and helping him to get to the other side. It took about 10 minutes for him to calm down but once he did, that was it for the entire day. Of course, we’ve had lots of days like this in the past so I’m under no illusion that I’ve suddenly stumbled onto a miracle strategy but considering the last few days, it felt miraculous nonetheless.
It also reminded me of something I read in a parenting book (yes, one of the very books I wanted to throw at someone’s last night). It said our reactions are rarely about what the child is doing and almost always about what’s happening inside us. How true it is! Max’s tantrums look the same, day in and day out. What varies is my reactions to them – and with that, the trajectory of our days together.
It’s for precisely that reason that I’m excited to see how the next 81 days unfold. In Big Happy Life, I’m always looking to shape habits in such a way that life feels easier and more enjoyable. Based on everything I’ve read about the effects of alcohol and mood and how it contributes to depression, I’m hoping for great things and plenty more great days as the next few months unfold.