I’m a member of a group called “The Female Entrepreneurs Association”. It’s a brilliant group, full of ambitious women making their dreams a reality.
This morning, someone posted about needing a ‘kick in the butt’. She is doubting herself and her business idea and feels ready to give up. I felt compelled to comment and offer support and encouragement. I remembered a quote I had written down that often helps spur me on when I’m scared about taking the next step in my business so I pulled out my journal to find it.
Just as I located the quote I was looking for, I saw this:
All changes have their melancholy, for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves. We must die to one life before we can enter another.
It got me wondering about how much space we make to grieve the loss of a previous identity when we move forward in our quest for self-improvement. Maybe we should take a moment to say, “it’s ok to miss who you used to be” (even if you didn’t like him or her very much).
Things like drinking, drugs and food can easily become crutches but once they do, they get sewn into the fabric of our identities. Letting go of them leaves holes. Perhaps just sitting with those holes and feeling the pain of them is the best way to grieve before we start patching them up and getting ready to wear our new identities.