Day 1: Proving something to myself

I love wine. It’s me time at the end of my day, it’s a gorgeous treat on sunny holiday lunches, it’s socialising, celebrating, relaxing, unwinding, letting your hair down and commiserating when things don’t go as you’d hoped. Trust me, it’s not lost on me that wine cannot serve all those purposes and the fact that I use it as such is one of the reasons it’s important for me to turn my back on it for a little while and find other ways to do all of those things.

I’m someone who believes there’s a difference between a habitual drinker and an alcoholic. I believe I am the former.  I drink at particular times for particular reasons. In much the same way as Pavlov’s dogs salivated at the mere sound of his ringing bell, particular cues signal “wine time” for me and I run the routine of pouring a glass and drinking it regardless of whether or not I actually want one.

Despite my work, learning about habits and teaching others how to shape theirs, drinking has remained the one habit I have yet to crack. As I look over my journals for the past several years, this theme remains ever present. I knew it was one I had to address but considering I’m still someone who gets up between 5am and 5.30am, exercises 5 – 6 times per week, cooks all food from scratch, reads my children bed time stories, plays with both of them on a one to one basis as much as possible, keep the house  tidy and run my business while setting up a new business, I feel I’m hardly a slacker. But I know enough to know that this habit is not serving me well. I’d go so far as to say it’s doing me harm. Until recently, I struggled to bring myself to take the plunge and do something to break the habit.

On 9 December 2018, I started a new habit and it is that new habit that has changed how I see myself and given me the strength to face this challenge and know I can do it. The new habit? The Wim Hof Method. It involves deep breathing followed by a cold shower or ice bath. At this point, I should tell you, I HATE being cold. I HATE, HATE, HATE it! But I’m managing it just fine and the experience is teaching me all kinds of cool things about myself, my abilities and my potential.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not expecting it to be easy or fun but I am in no doubt that I’ll keep going until I achieve my goal.

What challenge have you set yourself and what beliefs are helping you face that challenge head on?

2 Comments Add yours

  1. Gigi says:

    I’ve been without alcohol for four years as of December 6th. I’m a recovering alcoholic. Trust me, you can accomplish your goal. My goal is to lost 65 pounds over the year. I lost 20 in 2018. The beliefs drivingme are: 1) I’m worth it, 2) I’ve been very successful so far in my weight loss journey, 3) since I quit drinking I know that I can do anything.


    1. Big Happy Life says:

      Wow! Massive congratulations! What an inspiring story. I couldn’t imagine starting before Christmas. That first year must have been incredibly tough. I love your driving beliefs. It’s so important that we pay attention to those internal voices and how they drive us. Thank you for your kind words of support. It makes all the difference.


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