Creating a family one tradition at a time

Family traditions – when they’re enjoyed – offer predictability, stability and something to look forward to. They provide a framework around which other parts of life can build.

In families with adopted children, creating family traditions that everyone loves is one of the greatest ways to help children experience belonging and enjoy a sense of stability.

Our children were aged 7 and 17 months when they came to us so, particularly for the eldest, we needed to introduce predictable, fun activities for her to look forward to, rely on and feel part of.

It turned out we all loved pancakes and dancing so together we created “Pancake Dance Party“. Now it’s our Sunday tradition.

During Pancake Dance Party, we take turns picking songs until all the pancakes are cooked. While the cooking happens, we all dance around the kitchen – this usually involves some sort of conga-style, wordless ‘Simon says’ where we leap in circles around the kitchen island copying the leader’s moves. Well, that or run in circles yelling to the music with our arms in the air, but hey, according to the youngest, we’re dancing!  When all the pancakes are cooked, we sit down to enjoy them with our favourite toppings.

The newest tradition to bolt itself onto Pancake Dance Party is “The Final Pancake”. This involves pouring the last of the batter (not usually enough for a full pancake) into the pan and deciding what it looks like. We’ve had dinosaurs, giraffes, unicorn rhinos and all manner of funky combos.

Today’s (disappointingly boring) contender…


We’ve decided it’s either a smiley face with no eyes, the moon or an easter basket (upside down).

Pancake Recipe: 

150g Plain Flour

2 large eggs

1/2 pint milk

1/4 pint water

pinch salt


Blend the flour, eggs, salt and half the milk together. Slowly add the remaining liquid, whisking continuously.

Place the batter in the fridge to rest for 30 minutes (optional)

Brush a small amount of oil in a frying pan and pour batter in, swirling the pan so the batter coats the bottom in a thin layer.

When the sides of the pancake begin to come away from the pan, it’s ready to flip. Be as flamboyant as you wish!

When brown on lightly golden brown on both sides, set aside in a warming drawer or oven on very low heat while you cook the rest.

Enjoy with your favourite toppings.


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