All the power in thought

You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean in a drop. Rumi Have you ever stopped to think about the power you hold in your mind? Of course most of us know about the importance of positive thinking but have you ever really thought about how your thoughts weaken you…

Transcendental Meditation: I finally get how meditation should work!

I have been trying to meditate for years. I paid for an annual Headspace subscription, I read up about Kirtan Kriya meditation and practiced that for several months, I subscribed to Insights Timer and used a variety of guided meditations, some in the morning and some in the evening. No matter what I tried, meditation…

What if you lost the things you take for granted?

Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for. Epicurus I have recently discovered stoic philosophy. In my 20’s,  just the word philosophy would have been enough to make me roll my eyes and, although I’m finding…

Do you agree with this statement about happiness?

A happy life isn’t a problem free or perfect life. It might not even be a particularly good life by western standards. A happy life is simply one where all parts of it are accepted and no pretence has to be made in order for the person to experience mental tranquility. This sentence is in…

How sharing your darkest thoughts can help others

Are there things you really dislike about yourself – things you try hard not to think about if you can avoid them? Me too. Yet, today I had lunch with a friend – a fellow trainer who specialises in Mental Health First Aid courses. She and I talked about work, love, parenting and a whole…

Perseverance: Lessons from the Trauma lake

Although I’ve used trauma in the title, this post is not about trauma or surviving trauma. It’s about the lessons I took from a concept I discovered whilst researching the effects of trauma on children. What I found led me to consider the ways we can shape and shift perspective when we’re making herculean efforts…

How I broke the link between bad days and alcohol

7.26pm. A packed commuter train. I left home almost 14 hours ago. I’m sweating. My trousers have ripped. It’s been a hard day. I’m shattered and I’m going to miss my kids’ bedtimes. This was the scene as I travelled home from work earlier this week. I felt broken. That was until it hit me…