I want results for me! Me! Me!

I made a pledge to myself a year ago. I will live my life in ways I’m happy for my kids to copy. My kids are adopted. They had a tough start and we were advised that they would experience all kinds of deficits in terms of their development. Many believe these deficits are permanent….

Ask yourself a better question

Have you ever considered how powerful your questions are? What’s wrong with me? Our brains are diligent in their efforts to answer whatever questions we fire at them. No matter what we ask, our brains return with an answer. The drive to provide a plausible answer is so strong that the brain will add, change…

Help people treat you better

This post about the negative aspects of positive thinking inspired me to write today. It reminded me of a horrendous situation I faced almost two decades ago that caused me to leave a job I loved. Although stories are brilliant, this is a long one so here’s the abridged version: I had a job I…

All the power in thought

You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean in a drop. Rumi Have you ever stopped to think about the power you hold in your mind? Of course most of us know about the importance of positive thinking but have you ever really thought about how your thoughts weaken you…

Transcendental Meditation: I finally get how meditation should work!

I have been trying to meditate for years. I paid for an annual Headspace subscription, I read up about Kirtan Kriya meditation and practiced that for several months, I subscribed to Insights Timer and used a variety of guided meditations, some in the morning and some in the evening. No matter what I tried, meditation…

What if you lost the things you take for granted?

Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for. Epicurus I have recently discovered stoic philosophy. In my 20’s,  just the word philosophy would have been enough to make me roll my eyes and, although I’m finding…

Do you agree with this statement about happiness?

A happy life isn’t a problem free or perfect life. It might not even be a particularly good life by western standards. A happy life is simply one where all parts of it are accepted and no pretence has to be made in order for the person to experience mental tranquility. This sentence is in…