Starter pistol thought

Do you have thoughts that repeatedly sabotage you? Those thoughts that whisper and whip through your mind so fast you can’t see them, twisting your behaviour so you betray yourself and end up right back where you started despite all your efforts to do better? Today I uncovered one such thought; a barbed, little devil-thorn…

Is it possible?

Could we be just like dragonflies? Probably not the question you were expecting but here’s what I’m really asking: is it possible that the ‘human body’ part of our lives is part of a larger life cycle and that we experience some sort of metamorphosis when we get to the end of this part? I…

Why feeling rubbish can be easier than feeling happy

Several months ago, I wrote a post about asking better questions. The following day, I wrote this: Today it’s hard to care about making such efforts. The exhaustion of getting nowhere and of constantly struggling has reached the point of overwhelm. Every now and again, dark days descend and today is such a day. What…

Going NUTS with stress

Many a calm river begins as a turbulent waterfall, yet none hurtles and foams all the way to the sea. Mikhail Lermontov Do you ever experience massive stress and then look back and think, “what the hell was that all about?” That’s how I felt after my first day of home schooling. How had I…

Home schooling Day 1: Doubts and insecurities

Our morning started with whoops and cheers and high 5’s. I was optimistic. I believed I was well prepared. I was well prepared. Just not well enough. I had prepared activities and timetables, tasks and places to work but I had neglected to prepare myself fully for what lay ahead. Our first activity was PE…

What is under the water?

Make sure your worst enemy doesn’t live between your two ears. Laird Hamilton Listen to the podcast episode here. You’re in a jungle. You’re up to your waist in murky water, wading barefoot, stepping carefully from one sharp or slippery surface to the next. Working out where to place your feet is tricky and the…

How the story changes reality

Picture it. A four year old boy’s bedroom. 7.20pm. He is screaming and crying on floor. His mother sits near him on the floor. She is speaking to him in a soothing voice in an attempt to calm him. “Noooooooo! I WANT DADDY!! GO AWAY!!!” he screams. “Let me help you calm down and then…

I want results for me! Me! Me!

I made a pledge to myself a year ago. I will live my life in ways I’m happy for my kids to copy. My kids are adopted. They had a tough start and we were advised that they would experience all kinds of deficits in terms of their development. Many believe these deficits are permanent….

Ask yourself a better question

Have you ever considered how powerful your questions are? What’s wrong with me? Our brains are diligent in their efforts to answer whatever questions we fire at them. No matter what we ask, our brains return with an answer. The drive to provide a plausible answer is so strong that the brain will add, change…

Help people treat you better

This post about the negative aspects of positive thinking inspired me to write today. It reminded me of a horrendous situation I faced almost two decades ago that caused me to leave a job I loved. Although stories are brilliant, this is a long one so here’s the abridged version: I had a job I…