When you were born, you didn’t come with an owner’s manual; these guidelines make life work better. You will receive a body – You may like it or not, but it will be yours for the entire period round. You will learn lessons – You are enrolled in a full time, informal school called life. […]…
Breaking and Rebuilding – The story of how Big Happy Life began
Part 1 “How do I take what I’m learning about myself and actually change how I’m living?” This is the question Dr Brené Brown says she is asked most often by followers of her work. I asked a similar question at 5.38am on 8 December 2016 as I lay in my bed crying, wondering how…
The agony of making the wrong choice
When was the last time you made a decision that turned out to be wrong? Before I tell you about mine, take a look at this image. What do you see? If you have never seen this before, you might be able to guess at parts of the image or you might only see a…
I’d like to show you the power of your thoughts
If you haven’t done this little experiment before, I hope it will make you smile and give you a little ‘a-ha’ moment for the day. That’s what it does for most of the participants in my workshops. Start by watching this video. Now watch this video. If you’re like the participants I work with in…
Have you read any life-changing books lately?
I have started the Big Happy Book Club – a group where 2-3 of us come together to talk about an inspiring, life-changing book that has had an impact on our lives. If you’ve read a non-fiction book that made a difference to your life and you’d like to share your thoughts and experience on…
Discovering the words of Milarepa
The fighting in my head has been loud lately and I have been trying to find my way to something more peaceful. “Milarepa’s advice to Palderbum” opened a little door in my mind and created some space to see things a little differently: I’ve been looking for help letting go of unhelpful thoughts and these…
Don’t over host negative emotions
Have you ever had those house guests who need loads of looking after but see themselves as easy-breezy? You know the ones who like things ‘just so’ and then make it seem like you’re a bit of a fuss pot for trying to make things just so? Those guests really bug me and I’m happy…
How are we shaping reality?
RUN FOR YOUR LIVES!!! Stay in your houses. Close your doors. Sanitise. Sanitise. Sanitise. Failure to do so may kill you. This feels like the message the world over. You don’t have to seek out the doom. You can have it delivered to your eyes and ears every minute of the day. There’s plenty of…
Self-worth: Accepting it rather than proving it (Podcast)
Having a sense of self-worth means you value yourself and having a sense of self-value means that you are worthy. Courtney Ackerman – http://www.positivepsychology.com Until recently, I thought I had a handle on the whole ‘self-worth’, ‘self-value’ thing but over the last few weeks, some questions surfaced for me. Why do I feel the need…
Do I feel safe in my body?
What a strange question! It would never have occurred to me to ask this question and I’m grateful for the prompt – which came from Episode 3 of the Transcendance documentary on Gaia. I needed it. The monsters are attacking me again. The claws and teeth of judgemental thoughts are scratching and biting. “Bad mother….
